Forgive Quickly–Life is Short
At the risk of losing a couple of subscribers like the last time I wrote on this controversial topic, I’m going to ask for your grace. Now stick with me, this is a short post, and if you are a subscriber and comment, you can win three books that will be perfect for your summer vacations. Each book takes place in a coastal state and deal with this topic in some way. They are Still Waters by Lindsey Bracket, The One True Love of Alice-Ann by Eva Marie Everson, and The Writing Desk by Rachel Hauck.
So what is this scary topic? Forgiveness. All of these stories require a character to extend grace in difficult circumstances. In our real lives, forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things we are called to do, but we should forgive quickly even when the person has not apologized. Jesus taught all we need to know about forgiveness.
“Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times but seventy times seven.” Matthew 18:21-22. Y’all know I don’t do math, and even I know that’s a lot of times, but sometimes that’s what it takes.
I love that Jesus doesn’t give any other instructions–simply just keep forgiving. In my experience when the topic of forgiveness comes up, everyone has their own thoughts on how forgiveness should look. They often include conditions about not forgetting the wrong or letting an unapologetic person know that he has been forgiven. But that’s not what the Bible teaches us, so why do we think we get to create our own versions of forgiveness? Sorry if I’m stepping on your toes. Never fear, I’m stepping on mine as well. I think that’s one of the reasons Jesus says to forgive so many times, eventually we will do it with a pure, loving heart.
I think forgiving others is one of the ways we can truly feel the Holy Spirit working within us. We can’t do this on our own. Grace is against our human nature, but y’all, it is so good for us.
Forgiveness produces a compassionate heart, while unforgiveness fosters bitterness.
“The Lord longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for Him!” Isaiah 30:18.
As we learn to forgive quickly and unconditionally, we draw closer to the Lord. Our hearts can find peace and joy because we know God is faithful. Although it is often difficult to understand why he doesn’t punish wrongdoers or save us from their wrath, we can be thankful that he shows us the same mercies.
Friends, “be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32.
Life is too short to seek vindication and too long not to show grace.
How has someone shown you grace?
Is there a book or movie that you love about forgiveness?
Why is forgiveness important to you? How do you do it?
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Leslie, thank you for reminding us about forgiveness. I feel that forgiveness is a gift to ourselves that we need to experience everyday.
Forgiveness…what God commands us to do. Hard? It’s definitely not an easy thing to do even though we know in our hearts that it is the right thing to do. Grudges eat us up inside. Literally and figuratively. I was unforgiving of a neighbor who caused so much turmoil in my life. This person was so ugly and mean. I can’t go into the details, but it was not pretty. It took a long time of me avoiding her as much as possible, ignoring ugly gestures and comments, but it was eating me up inside. I forgave her; maybe not the right way. I didn’t say it to her, but I said it to myself. I stopped avoiding her in stores and other places, I spoke kindly when I saw her, and it felt good. She has moved, but we run into each other and can carry on a conversation and that feels good.
What a beautiful example. Thank you for sharing.
God has been softening my heart toward several people I had trouble forgiving. Through praying and asking God to help me with forgiving, I have noticed a change in my perspective. Thanks be to God!
When I have someone in my life who continues to hurt people i love, forgiveness can be especially hard. It’s in these times that I have to remember that forgiveness has to be a daily choice. And sometimes an hourly one. I can decide to forgive but then anger comes creeping back in, and I have to decide again. It helps me to pray blessings over the person even if I don’t mean them at first. “Father, bless this crazy girl.” And after awhile my heart softens to “bless this girl” and before long “bless *name and pour out your riches upon her… and such” and I find myself genuinely meaning it! Thanks for the reminder!!
Forgiveness is my gift to myself, my obedience to the Lord, and extending the grace that God has given me time and again. Colossians 3:13- “as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”
Isn’t He so amazing at working on our hearts.
Such great words and practical advice. Thank you for sharing.
Beautifully said.